Percolating


* Coffee….the smell of a fresh brew makes me want to go on a long road trip…up and down the West Coast of the US of A…

* The Eaton Sisters

I’m reading about the Eurasian sisters and writers Edith and Winnifred Eaton – who wrote under the pen name “Onoto Watanna”. I’m reading Diana Birchall’s biography on Winnifred at the moment and am completely fascinated by her life story. Birchall is Eaton’s grand daughter. Edith and Winnifred were one of 14 children born to a Chinese mother and English father. Both became writers but whereas Edith chose to identify with her mother’s people and write about Chinese people as an almost insider, and under the pen name Sin Siu Far, Winnifred chose to construct a half-Japanese persona and write about Japanese people and culture – though also as a Eurasian almost insider.
Reading about these two women reminded me of 1996 (?) Eric Liu’s musings, in The Accidental Asian, on how his Eurasian children will have the option to identify with, claim, discard their Chinese/White identities because they are visibly bi-cultural. I’m completely in awe of Winnifred’s audacity. She must have been quite a character. Birchall biography documents her later life and she had very sad and complex relationships with her sons. There’s the argument that Edith’s writing is more contemporary in that she writes about race and cultural issues the way someone in this era would, and that Winnifred’s plays into what we now identify as very Orientalised images of the East…but I don’t think that we have broken out of the latter. I can see how it happens. The audience almost expects it. Edith published one short story collection because she died relatively young. Winnifred died in her 80s. She also wrote under an Irish pen name later on in life.

* Victorian Mental Asylums in Epsom, Surrey.

I spent some of my formative years in Epsom because my parents were migrant workers at the asylums there.

Here’s a BBC story about how typhoid female patients were locked up at Long Grove.
They were sane to begin with… It would have been so scary being locked up with the criminally insane. I remember Dad said there were older patients there who weren’t mentally ill, at least not to begin with, but may have been placed there because they couldn’t speak English. He mentioned a Polish patient who remained in England after one of the wars.

The people we knew were all nurses or domestics from the hospital, and all were non-English. They did the work no one else wanted to do. My parents knew people used the work visa as a stepping stone to other occupations or life choices. In fact a few of them were so embarrassed that they ever wiped a mental patient’s arse and do such menial work, that they denied ever having lived in the town after they became bankers and stock brokers etc.. One of them was my bank manager uncle. Our family friends were Irish, Spanish, Italian, Hong Kong and Malaysian Chinese…There were possibly other ethnic groups but I don’t remember.

I’m looking for more information about these asylums as this is where I spent a lot of my childhood…waiting for my parents to finish work. I was in the creche, smuggled into the kitchens. I remember the Great Hall. I remember picking apples and chestnuts off the orchard trees. Maybe I’m romanticizing the English meadows, but I remember driving along a road lined with large oak trees or maybe they were willow trees. I’ve never been much of a botanist. Most of all, I remember being completely fascinated by the patients. There are two occasions that I remember quite vividly and I think it’s because they were the only occasions where people were acting “insane”. I remember hanging around one of my cousins who worked there briefly and taking swigs of his Guinness whilst walking in and out to watch him attempt to tinkle with the engine of his Morris Minor.

It’s funny how up until recently, I never really thought about my time in England. I seem to have more of a connection to a place I have no conscious memories of than I do of England. I forget that my experiences growing up here and feeling rather alien isn’t just because of my ethnic background – it was because not only did I look different, I also sounded different. That and I stopped hanging out at insane asylums.

I can’t seem to make up my mind about what to do with this blog.
Fortunately, I’ve discovered the “Privacy” function in wordpress. Last time I couldn’t make up my mind about a blog or two, I deleted the blog(s)…which I now regret because one of them was my pregnancy journal.

I do however have plans to learn CSS – cascading style sheets, buy a domain and set up a website next year. It’s going to be the “hobby” in my motherhood+1career+2hobby formula. I was going to cook for the second hobby, but then remembered that I have two hungry mouths to feed and If I only cook for fun, I’m going to end up with a very skinny husband and son. Hey…is that a zeugma because I’m missing an adjective before “son”. That’s my new word: zeugma. [And yes...my husband can cook, but I don't like what he cooks 80% of the time, which is why I've claimed cooking duties and given him washing up duties. Also I'm a lot quicker in the kitchen.]

I’m feeling a bit vague and ditzy as I type. I have, according to the doctors, a “mild head injury”. On Sunday I went to my favourite cafe, only to find that it had been taken over by some ladette bogans. I mean power to women who want to claim bogan guy behaviour as their own, right down to the crotch scratching and love for Anthony Mundine, but the cafe is small and didn’t have enough soft furniture to dampen their ladette conversations. Also, one ladette started off a conversation…”I worked with an Asian once…”. I mean it could have been…”…and they have very nice hair,” but I’d already stereotyped them more than they had me. So I sat outside…
A gust of wind came in from no where and hey presto, the heavy pole of the outdoor umbrella hit me on the head. The nice waitress rushed up to us. My husband said, “no damaged done…” I smiled feebly because I was in a state of shock and stumbled across the road before feeling nauseous and tired. I didn’t pass out and it was just a dull surface ache – but you know, you hear about people in the media saying stuff like, “Oh…but she was feeling fine…and dropped dead within 24 hours.”

My beautiful boy gave me kisses on the head and a big hug.

So what’s my point – freak accidents happen. Thank goodness I was too lazy to get the high chair for my son and he was in my husband’s lap.

I’m blogging as I wait for the courtesy Toyota shuttle to pick me up. The car went in for service yesterday and there was so much wrong with it, it had to stay in overnight. I’m learning quite a bit about cars because my son is car crazy. I’ve learnt a lot about the VW – how it was the Nazi’s Model-T ford but production had to stop during the war, that the scirocco looks like the golf, and that the mini cooper is a descendent of the austin cooper, morris minor… My son’s favourite car is the Mini Cooper Coupe – I looked into getting one and didn’t realise that it’s a luxury car selling at $75,000.

I’m clucky but have always said I need to finish my draft before I think about having another child. The MA is plodding along. It’ll be good to get this finished because I think I’d like to at some stage continue and write a PhD around contemporary feminist issues – started thinking about it when my Friday morning class started talking about their lives. I have a really sassy Iraqi lady who is fiercely intelligent. She is a widow supporting two young children – her husband was blown up back home in Iraq- sadly it was when he went back into Iraq after escaping into Syria. She’s around my age and it’s just incredible to think all the time I had been navel gazing, blogging, watching my inane American teen dramas as a form of escapism, planning my next holiday, afraid of the quiet suburbs and the loss of my independent self..she was living in dusty, hot, Baghdad, lost her premature baby due to the fact she had only a Baghdad hospital for medical care, lost her husband, lived in a war zone…. She came out here by herself and is a woman warrior. She reminds me of my maternal grandmother. Ballsy. Yet still very conservative. She was explaining to me that she had to wear a veil and all women have to wear a veil because if they didn’t it would cause problems between the men who see them [objectify them] and the men’s wives. The thing is this woman shares similar attitudes as me towards world peace and the big issues, but yet when it comes to this, she falls back on the conservative attitude where men do not take responsibility for their actions. My grandmother, and to an extent my mother, shared these attitudes. The whole idea that you’re asking for it, if you reveal too much flesh. On the other hand, to believe that you are attractive to men means that you have a healthier self-esteem than say the woman who feels she has to expose more to make herself more sexually attractive.

I’m thinking, will I lose touch with the world if I stop working next semester?